So You Knew It Was Coming

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I am not the most politically correct person, but I do believe that some things are not appropriate to joke about and domestic violence tops that list. I’ve almost been as upset to the reaction of the story of Chris Brown beating up Rihanna as the allegation itself.

This is not funny. If anything, it’s yet another reason why some people need to have their reproductive rights revoked. How cruel and insulting can a person be?

Even worse than these two jackasses’ “parody” are the people so quick to blame Rihanna for the whole incident.

Since word of this first leaked I’ve constantly read comments about how “she probably caused it.” How she “likely set him off.” How some women “know how to push a man’s buttons.” How “island women are crazy.” And on. And on. And on. The irony of it all is I’ve found most of the people defending Chris Brown to be women. For the life of me, I’ll never understand how some women can blindly defend a man who beats down a woman.

I realize that in some instances it could very well be unavoidable, but as more information leaks it’s becoming painfully obvious that he did a number on her and at 6’1 and 200 pounds, I don’t think Chris Brown had much to fear from Rihanna.

No woman deserves to be beaten in that manner from a man. For any woman that thinks so, I feel sorry for you. Patriarchy abused your better logic.


When I first heard about this, that was my reaction: Lock him up and may his career evaporate. I didn’t care if his new best friends in jail turned on “Run It” and did just that to him, I felt he had it coming. In some ways, I still he needs to be put on his back, but a friend cautioned me that wishing death to his career wasn’t fair. Honestly, he had a point. Some people do change and in his case, I hope he learns from this. Apparently, this isn’t the first time he has been accused of not knowing how to treat a woman, so maybe he’ll finally learn how to control his temper now that he’s losing money. That’s usually the greatest motivator in people.

But judging from the responses of some people, all Chris needs is one good publicist and a cry on Tyra or Oprah’s couch and he’s back on top. The way some people tell it, you would think he was the victim.

“I spoke to him today,” Tip said. “He’s cool, you know. He’s a little concerned about the situation, but he’s still the same Chris.” Tip said despite conversing with Brown, he still didn’t know what had happened, but he offered advice to the singer. “I told him, ‘This too shall pass.’ We’re celebrities, we’re entertainers, but we’re still human — all of us,” he said. “Don’t expect us not to make mistakes, because we will.”

If you went by this fake ass G.I. Joe’s comments, you would think Rihanna stuck an umbrella down Chris Brown’s throat. One would hope he’d be inclined to say something nice towards both of them – especially when you consider Rihanna lent her vocals to the song that won’t go away, “Life Ya Life.” But some men stick together no matter how wrong the other one may be.

Edit: Nevermind. T.I. retracted his statement saying he should have waited to learn about the entire situation before commenting. I guess someone reminded him of the spins he got from Rihanna and/or mentioned he finds out when he’s locked up soon.

Then you have this baby wipe addict clown Terrence Howard chiming in with:

“It’s just life man,” Howard said of the situation. “Chris is a great guy. He’ll be all right. Rihanna knows he loves her. They’ll be alright. Everyone has just got to get out of their way.”

That’s along the lines of, “Baby you know I love you, I’ll never do it again.” Suck a dick and choke, bitch.

Edit: Soft and smooth has backtracked, too, telling ET: “When they asked me about Chris Brown the other day, I was in no way aware of what he had been accused of. Had I know, I would have never said something so insensitive.”

Uh huh.

And one of the biggest idiots of them all Soulja Boy says:

“I hope everything works out with my homeboy Chris.. I was just with him the night before the incident talking about his new album and just kickin it. I hope everything works out for the best! Chris hold it down homie, you know how the media gets!!”

I guess I shouldn’t be surprised. Judging from his speech, he’s been abused all his life.

Can’t believe I’m saying this, but thank God again for Kanye West.

I feel like, just as a person, I don’t care how famous she is, or even if she worked at McDonald’s, that should have never happened. It should have never come to that place.”

Minus that whole bit about Rihanna having the potential to be the greatest artist ever, this is exactly what needs to be said considering people don’t take domestic violence seriously. I think what gets me about this whole deal is that Chris Brown once told Giant that he grew up terrified and defenseless because he couldn’t defend his mother from his step-father.

I grew up hating my father for a number of reasons, but without straying too deep into my personal live, I’ll say that how to treat my mother was the main reason. I grew up wanting to kill his ass. There, I said it. And the only thing that terrified me more about what may happen to my family was that I may grow up to be exactly like him.

Like Chris, there is a history of stupidity in my family. At one point as a child I thought to never get married because I had such a fear that I would become that person and I never wanted to mistreat anyone in that way so at the time, I thought it would be better to be alone rather than put someone at risk.

Over time, I realize that didn’t have to be so long as I made the effort not to repeat his mistakes. To try and be a better person and deal with problems before I become the very person I despised. I’m not nearly as far along as I’d like to be, but I’m making the effort. I hope Chris ultimately chooses to do the same. I wouldn’t be mad if Rihanna threw dishes at his skull, but blacklisting him from music may likely only make him angrier.

I used to get into a lot fights. Most of which were due to people trying to test me, but there were instances where I started it out of frustration over something going on at home. I usually got a pass (say not suspended as long as I could’ve been), because I had a good reputation as a nice dude and a good student (don’t suck your teeth at me — I am nice and shit). I had always been raised to never duck a fight especially if a person hits you.

Everytime that happened to me I fought back. There was one time, though, where I thought not to. At the time, I was still short and chubby, and this Lady of Rage looking bitch hit me. And when I say hit me, I don’t mean she slapped — she hit me like a dude. All over some damn notebook paper. Before you even ask, yes, my high school was hood. Call it Child Left Behind High. Anyhow, when she hit me, I said, “I’m not going to hit you back.” There were dudes yelling, “You gon’ let that bitch punk you like that?” But I just couldn’t so I stood there. Then she swung at me again and I lost it. She was bigger and much taller than me, but I ended up grabbing her by the cheap weave pony tail you can now find at most gas stations on MLK and started tagging her like every other dude that swung on me before her.

I got sent to another classroom as I waited for my teacher to call the principal, student po-po and what not. The entire time I put my head down feeling so horrible. I felt low. Like I had just become the person I never wanted to be. When a girl from the class came to get me, I thought she was about to let me have it. You know, “You’re a boy, how could you beat up on a girl?” Actually she said with excitement: “Damn, you beat that bitches ass.” Then her ass dabbed me up. She didn’t help.

It wasn’t until I got home to tell my mom and sister what had happened did I feel better. I was waiting for both of them to light into me. They didn’t. My mom explained to me that given the situation, I defended myself. To give myself some credit, I didn’t try to stomp her when we both hit the ground (look, she was a big bitch, we were knocking desks over), but I still felt horrible. It was only after my mom said what I did doesn’t make me anyone but a person who had to defend himself.

I write all of this to say I don’t know what exactly happened, and I can’t be too self-righteous because I was in the placed in the position where I had to make a choice: Let a girl try and beat me down or defend myself. Judging from what’s leaked so far, my situation sounds completely different from Chris Brown’s but I put it out there all the same. I can’t act like I’ve never hit a woman when I have. I’ve never done it again and I don’t ever plan to again.

Whatever caused Chris Brown to do what they say he did to Rihanna, I hope he learns to handle better in the future. I haven’t been in a fight since that girl.

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