Real Love
I’m not going to even pretend to be a relationship expert, but I know one thing for sure: I’d never take advice from a chick named Diamond.
I appreciate Diamond and her 32 flavors of that bootylicious bubble gum (raspberry, grape, cherry, come and get this honey bun), but she lost me with this:
“Personally I don’t give a F*** a n*gga could talk to 20 b*tches but as long as I get my 90% and whoever he talking to get 10% that’s fine. A n*gga gonna be a n*gga and once a chick realize men gonna do what they wanna do its about how they go about doing it as long as they respect me and whoever… like if you are talking to somebody or whatever as long as they know when I step in the building then she need to put her head down, she need to know her place. That’s when people get it twisted.”
…I’m not saying that we are messing around on each other, but that’s the type of understanding we got. If I was messing with somebody please believe I’m going to tell that n*gga to be quiet if he call. You need to shut up my n*gga. We keep it real, all the way real we don’t sugar coat none no way whatsoever, but we so happy with each other that its no need to go mess with nobody else, but if we do it’s just a little fling cause its hard and this industry makes you grow up so fast.
First off, I suggest you all read this with a ghetto girl accent for the full effect. You might even want to roll your neck every other sentence just in case you want to really dive into the character. I don’t think you can read it any other way, honestly.
Now ya’ll can debate whether or not I should change my name to Toucan Sam based my musical tastes all ya’ll want to, but I would never say some bullshit like this.
So Diamond’s basically saying she doesn’t care if her man cheats on her so much that she might ultimately catch a permanent itch from him so long as he gives her the majority of his time and only uses his bathroom breaks to get up on other hoes?
And if you employ this sort of thinking into your relationships then you’re ahead of the game because you understand that men will be men, and thus will cheat on you. Meanwhile she says that her and Not-So-Lil-Anymore Scrappy are so happy that they don’t need to see other people, but if they did you know it’s all good because it’s just a little fling anyway. And those sort of flings happen because the industry makes you grow up so fast. Ya dig?
If you got a headache from reading all of that, congrats — that means I can still do a bird breakdown.
I think most people with sense realize that Diamond’s logic makes about as much sense as a Kim Zolciak wig.
But then again, there is a whole market set up for this line of thinking.
I’m not going to waste any time telling her to know her worth and proceed to encourage her to sing an Alicia Keys medley. I think most people understand how these sort of women operate. It’s all good as long they’re being fed, driving a nice car and wearing garments from designers with names they can barely pronounce.
Yet I still read that rant of hers and had to fight off a wonk eye. It would be easy to point out that Diamond probably scored an F-A-I-L on her GED, but that would negate that fact that there are plenty of women out there from a different class and education level that are just as willing to give into the “men are men” notion as she is.
I notice I have a lot of female readers (which I am perfectly fine with — ya’ll buy books), so I wanted to ask most of you: What the hell is wrong with some of ya’ll?
RoCkii BoXxE
October 7, 2009 at 2:29 am
These are the same sorry ass women that will always struggle for a better life and hoot and holler when they cannot find it, but kick anyone down that has it.
Selfish as hell!
ChiChi
October 7, 2009 at 8:15 am
The perfect song for this dumb ass sentiment. SMH I don’t understand myself, either.
babygirlja
October 7, 2009 at 2:08 pm
I don’t know what the hell is wrong with these bird ass bitches. I guess when you grow up seeing those types of relationships that and living with that mentality (not saying that it is an excuse to want to be treated like that) you grow up thinking that that’s what love is.
Taj
October 7, 2009 at 5:20 pm
“ya`ll buy books”
(…good night, sir)
Just kidding! Just kidding!
But seriously, Diamond is one of the girls who is willing to compromise what a true relationship is for things it could potentially offer her. Scrappy obviously laid down the law, and she`s defending it because she has no other choice. -_-
Nicki Sunshine
October 9, 2009 at 5:41 am
The issue is- some of us don’t know our value… someone (ex-boyfriends, homies, girlfriends) has told this child that a man is gonna be a man and he’s gonna cheat. Someone has drilled it into her skull and now she’s lost.
seven7nine
October 9, 2009 at 2:03 pm
Unfortunately, it does come down to self-worth. If you don’t feel like you’re worth a man giving you his full 100% devotion, attention and affection, AND if you don’t demand that from the man you’re with, then you’ll settle for the measly 90%.
Women need to stop being so complacent with these men that aren’t good for anything more than “laying pipe”. Demand that a man have at least what you have before you lay down with him. SoOoOo if you have your own car, job and own place to stay, he needs to have at least those three things too (unless there are extenuating circumstances) or else, there is no conversation.
STOP settling for less!
If you are giving 100% of yourself and are wholly committed to the relationship, then DEMAND that he is too or there is NO conversation!
When you start accepting the fact that he has less than you (and no goals or aspirations to do more with his life) and that he’s cheating on you (but that its ok as long as “them hoes know their place” smh) then you’ll never get what you deserve!
Wait until you find someone worth your time and effort and stop selling yourself short with these lil boys who feel they deserve to get head because they paid for your movie ticket. Demand what you deserve and don’t settle for anything less. Until Diamond realizes what she’s worth, she’ll (and plenty other misguided females) continue to have this mentality…
Taco
October 10, 2009 at 7:41 pm
Taj said it best when she(?) said “Scrappy obviously laid down the law, and she`s defending it because she has no other choice.” That’s basically what Diamond’s little rant was all about. Still, I hope this flawed logic doesn’t reach too many impressionable young ears of men and women, although I’m afraid they’re probably already bombarded with countless variations of this mindset from different sources. This lowered expectation of how a man should be in a relationship is exactly why it’s hard to find a good AVAILABLE black man to build a life with. Hell, why should we expect men be more if we don’t demand it!
–SMDH
KLW
October 20, 2009 at 5:30 pm
Hood rat to the fullest. I swear the more “gangster” she tries to sound, the more stupid she sounds. That is actually appealing to young women nowadays. Get that money! Get that money! That’s what it is all about. I don’t have enough fingers to count how many times I’ve run across a young woman yelling loudly into her phone, “Ho this & ho that. I’m the bottom bitch. Girl, you betta get that money.” No values, no morals, no goals. No nothing.