12 COMMENTS

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  Cassie

  October 15, 2009 at 9:34 am

  Here’s what I posted over on Essense:
  First off, Kudos for Mr. Cynical One, I’m a loyal follower(aka Stan LOL)of your blog before all of this fame LOL. Anyhow, I loved this article, I’m a gay woman and I hear this all the time from men. Its like I keep hearing the saying, “Good Luck with That.” Somehow if I’m not walking around in a wife beater and Tim’s there must also be hope for me. I wear stilleto’s, makeup and I’m all the makings of a very fem lesbian. Men always seem to say, you don’t look like the type. What the heck is “the type? Then they proceed to tell me things like you haven’t found “the one”, just let me take you out, bring your girlfriend or my favorite, you just need some good d*ck in your life zzzzzzz. Its good to know that I’m not alone in the fight LOL

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  caligurl

  October 15, 2009 at 11:10 am

  I read this on Essence but for some reason I wasnt able to post. I really enjoyed this blog. I have a gay cousin and my uncle(rip)was gay also.I also have several gay friends. So this hits close to home for me. I’m not sure why females think they can change your mind or who you are. They can’t and I don’t think they have the right to try. Once you make it clear that your gay, they should show some respect. Your brave to be so upfront and honest. We need more brothas like you. Im going to tell my cousin about ur blog, this will help him a lot. He deals with hateful words, stares and just has really had a hard time since coming out. This will aid him as he can take encouragement from you. So thank you and keep up the good work. Oh and I read your short story..LOVE IT!

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  I mean, really...

  October 16, 2009 at 3:26 pm

  How many times are you going to write an “I’m gay” blog? Haven’t we seen this re-incarnation on a few different sites already? I GET IT, YOU LIKE THE PEEN. Writers should be challenged to come up with new themes and ideas. This one has been done ad nauseam.

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  Michael

  October 16, 2009 at 4:03 pm

  You think the subject matter is trite yet you took the time to read and comment on it? Haven’t you heard that before? What does one do after? They stop reading. When other people stop making a big deal about perhaps the gays will. Evidently someone keeps making a fuss over it, hence the blog? Thank you for visiting and taking the time to comment on a topic that bores you to death!

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  Oh wow

  October 16, 2009 at 6:39 pm

  LOL, boy bye. Clearly you misread what I wrote and are now trying to spin me into some kind of bigot. I don’t have a problem with the subject matter (PLEASE show me where I said that. Please do.). I do have a problem with repetitiveness. I read about how MJB’s music helped you come out on Aliya King’s blog. I JUST read that fiction piece about coming out. So I click on Essence and what do I get? Surprise, surprise, another reassertion of your sexuality. How does that Digital Underground song go — “all around the world, the same song.” I like this blog. I was just hoping for something fresh, that’s all.

  Y’all bloggers get soooooo pressed when someone has the audacity to point out that your shit stinks just like everyone else’s. That’s the difference between bloggers and writers — the latter knows how to accept criticism.

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  Michael

  October 16, 2009 at 6:49 pm

  How often did James Baldwin write about race and sexuality? How often does David Sedaris write books about his family? How often did Zora Neale Hurston write in dialect? How often has Tina Fey wrote about being that quirky kind of girl? I’m not sure how long you’ve been reading my site, so while I thank you for reading, if you are bored you can always leave and find something else. It has nothing with criticism and everything to do with helping you find something more to your liking. You know, since you find me repetitive.

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  Oh wow

  October 16, 2009 at 7:32 pm

  Mmhmm. But MJB knew when to stop singing about men doing her wrong, and Janet knows every song can’t be a club-banger.

  Awww, I must be your first real hater. Got you all riled up on Twitter and errythang!

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  Michael

  October 16, 2009 at 8:08 pm

  Janet Jackson hasn’t had a hit album since 1997 and Mary J. Blige coasts on the legacy she crafted nearly a decade ago. You don’t have me ‘riled up.’ You sound immature. In short: I don’t write solely about homosexuality. Since you’re pressed to explain to me the differences between real writers and bloggers, I encourage you to do your research.

  I write entertainment stories daily for two separate media companies, write about the economy for another, and also write freelance pieces on music, television, race, sexuality, and politics. That’s all on the side of the page. On this very blog, I’ve written about all of those topics in addition to others. Thank you for trying to tell me about my own career, though.

  I’m only entertaining you still because I’ve noticed a pattern with a few commentators such as yourself. It was one thing to assume I was gay or maybe wonder about it every now and then. Yet, now that I talk about it more openly it’s like, “We know, don’t remind me.”

  If that’s case, you’re free to have that opinion but it’s my life. I’ll write about what I want. You have free will. You have the option to scroll past this post, the other gay post, and read the posts that have nothing to do with homosexuality. You could go through the archives and read something else entirely. Or, you could save yourself the trouble and click on the red X and free yourself of my purported repetitiveness.

  No one is forcing you to read my rants about “gayness.” And I don’t need you to explain to me the difference between a real writer and a blogger. Notice you didn’t address any of the writers I mentioned and you went back to singers. Why? Well, it’s pretty obvious. Same for you seemingly having a problem with me writing about homosexuality. Thou doth protest too much?

  I’ve entertained your diatribe and you’ve gotten the attention you wanted. You can continue to give yourself fellatio for being my “first real hater.” Meanwhile, I’m going to keep writing about what I want to write about. That is: GAY. GAY. GAY. GAY.

  Either get with it, get over it, or have your computer discover the beauty that is euthanasia. Otherwise, we don’t have much else to talk about. Thank you for reading. Have a wonderful nite. I’m about to go out for dinner. Enjoy chewing on this last response.

  P.S. GAY. GAY. GAY. GAY.

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  @mzphine

  October 17, 2009 at 12:47 pm

  Loved it, as I do all of your writings..You as Wendy Williams would say are “a friend in my head” on Twitter, however I was a fan of yours LONG before Twitter emerged. I too write and you and that “jig” keep me cracking up. *closing eyes imagining a good gig*. There are some women who just DON”T GET IT. As my gay uncle says ” I have thought and thought and there ain’t nutting I can think of doing to/with you” to women who continually hit on him

  Love ya!

  ps. You WILL be a successful screen writer cuz WE said so – you and I.

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  Nawlinschick

  October 17, 2009 at 5:05 pm

  I really really hate people with small minds. I LOVE your blog and I tell everyone I can to read it b/c despite what Oh Wow said you’re shit is always fresh and hilarious. And as for those homophobic haters on the Essence website….People need to get it together. Living life with a closed mind is so not wassup. I don’t even see why this bitch had to go there. Whether or not you talk on you blog about being gay is irrelevent b/c first of all it’s YOUR blog second I think the point of the post was not to put it out there that you were gay but show another venue that you had been given to work with your craft. Keep up the great work and to all the haters eat a bag of baby dicks.

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  J2201987

  October 18, 2009 at 11:12 am

  LOL @ “Janet Jackson hasn’t had a hit album since 1997.” Just wann’t right!

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  TNR

  October 19, 2009 at 3:07 pm

  I must admit I thought you were writing about being gay alot as well. But after readying your comment to the previous poster I get it.

  Keep doing what you do.

  By the way I was in your old hometown last weekend for my alma mater homecoming: Prairie View A&M. We are on the way to that SWAC championship!!! Sorry I am a little happy; it has been a long time coming!