When I first learned of proposed legislation in Uganda in what’s since been branded the “Kill the Gays” bill I honestly wrote it off as nothing more than evidence that many of our African brethren are still quite primitive in their way of thinking.
Of course, being an American that’s the pot calling the kettle black. We’re not exactly the progressive society we posture ourselves to be either, but at least we’ve moved beyond using political power to push for some sort of homo holocaust. Well, some of us anyway.
I can’t say that I’m surprised that some impish, so called “ex-gay’s” book has helped empower those in Uganda harboring deep seated hatred for homosexuals. I’m also not surprised that some conservative leaders who masquerade themselves as people of strong morals stateside are not-so-indirectly supporting legalized murder on another continent. Though she’s largely preaching to the choir, thankfully Rachel Maddow has a growing chorus.
If the 18-minute clip is too long for you, among many other things, Maddow calls out author “gay-to-straight therapist, Richard Cohen,” for the insanely stereotypical statistic he pulled out of the hole he brainwashed himself to no longer enjoy being pummeled in:
Homosexuals are at least 12 times more likely to molest children than heterosexuals; homosexual teachers are at least 7 times more likely to molest a pupil; homosexual teachers are estimated to have committed at least 25 percent of pupil molestation; 40 percent of molestation assaults were made by those who engage in homosexuality.
When called on it, Cohen says he will remove the quote in future printings because he doesn’t want to inspire people like the Ugandans holding political office and their means to cure itself of the gays. Soon after Maddow points out to Cohen that the person responsible for this statistic was kicked out of the American Psychological Association – probably because his crazy ass made that stat up. He was also kicked out of the American Sociological Association. You don’t say.
As the segment goes on, naturally Cohen acts like his book doesn’t perpetuate homophobia, intolerance, and paranoia about homosexuality.
Yet in his book makes the following claim:
Divorce can make you gay; religion can make you gay; adoption can make you gay; race can make you gay.
People like Richard Cohen irk the living hell out of me.
He is yet another person who sits there and takes his own personal demons and uses them to fuel hatred toward those who bothered to make the effort to accept who they are.
Like his explanation for his past homosexual attraction (paraphrasing):
“I wasn’t trying to have a sexual relationship with a man; I was trying to have that unattainable male bond with my dad and after puberty those feelings became sexual.”
After he had “healthy relationships” with guys he no longer wanted to slurp any.
I know, Kobe. I know.
Just because he feels that when he used to call his closet cut buddy “daddy” during hide and peek at peen back in middle school he was trying to connect with his pappy doesn’t mean the rest of us out here are doing the same. This little rationale for his own “transgressions” doesn’t explain why men who have had strong platonic relationships with men are gay, nor does it even mention the reason why we have the word lesbian.
Some of you out there are under the belief that if a person brainwashes themselves long enough that they can suppress their urges of engaging in touch me, tease me with a person with the same sort of genitalia and go on to lead a “normal” heterosexual lifestyle. If you haven’t caught my tone yet I find that to make about as much sense as a man missing two front teeth calling me yuck mouth.
I can watch butt naked chicks on World Star Hip Hop all day long and my lap feels softer than an orthopedic pillow. Meanwhile, all it takes is a thought about my favorite’s smile and that makes my record skip. I don’t feel like I have a mental disorder because of this either. In fact, it confirms the obvious (unless you think I have some perverted attraction to nice teeth…weirdo).
That’s all pretty anecdotal, and thus won’t be going into anyone’s scientific study anytime soon. But, I know better than to pass off my own experiences as the rule of thumb for everyone else, especially if I know it affects the lives of other people.
This conflicted and restricted unlicensed psychotherapist (emphasis on the prefix please) doesn’t seem to share my stance.
Sadly, people will die because of it.
I don’t want to end on a completely somber note but let’s just say, no matter how hard people try eventually attitudes change. It’s just unfortunate that change isn’t happening today so that lives could be spared from politicians and the pussies with publishing deals that enable them.