Cowards & Stacks
Let me just say that I would rather use my dick as a tennis racket than hold a conversation with Kat Stacks. Her slurred speech, deluded sense of self-importance that’s fueled by antics that suggests she actually has no self-worth, along with her obvious dreams to be the illiterate world’s answer to Karrine Steffans all irk the living hell out of me.
And don’t get me started on how whatever ass shots she got injected into her have given her what looks like a booty in the shape of a dented mushroom. There are trannies with more believable female body parts. She would know, she uses the same doctor.
All that shade aside, when I saw this video of her being slapped by men thrice her size, I was disgusted. As I’ve made it perfectly clear several times over I do not condone domestic violence so you can imagine how I feel about men assaulting a woman. What sickened me even more was the round of applause these men got from a select group of people.
Well, mainly from other men.
Some people spoke on “karma.” Karma is one of those terms people like to repeat without actually having any knowledge about it. You know, like love, God, friendship, or gumbo.
Kat Stacks being attacked my men isn’t karma. It’s gossip being punished by violence. The end. Stop trying to attribute it to something considered “deeper” in order to excuse your amusement by a defenseless woman being attacked by a man.
What further disappoints me is that based on what I saw on Twitter, a lot of gay men have had a laissez-faire attitude towards a woman being beaten. Or at least, a lot of the gay black men who fill my timeline. It’s yet another glowing example of how misogyny spans sexual orientation — even if that same misogyny is routinely used against gay men.
The men who attacked Kat Stacks did so out of retaliation for her gossip mongering. I get that, but I also think these men felt that because she’s a woman, they think she’s beneath them. It’s much easier to physically attack someone when you think they’re below you. You’re preying on their perceived weakness.
Considering most homophobia is rooted in the hatred of women, it’s fair to say real punks like these men look to people like me to as a punk. I don’t think gay men are like women, but I do realize how often the two are grouped together in terms of how hypermasculinity dictates that we collectively are “less than.”
That’s why I ideally, I’d like to imagine gay men having a bit more understanding about why it’s not OK to beat on a woman. Although the notion of meshing fluids with a female makes my stomach do the jerk, I really do have a great appreciation for women. I totally got GaGa when she told Larry King yesterday, “Gay men never wanted anything from me but my friendship.”
It’s really unfortunate to find there are still many gay men who pick up on the same bad habits of their wannabe hypermasculine supposedly heterosexual brethren. I say supposedly because the biggest irony of this all is, these men were defending someone who often acts about as hard as I would with Kat Stacks in my lap.
Bitches.
ChynaNice
June 2, 2010 at 6:19 pm
I agree with what you’re stating in your blog. I do not condone physical violence against women at all. And I certainly don’t agree with the actions of these men against Kat Stacks. However, when you’re dealing with these kinds of people. You can expect ignorant and just plain stupid events like this to occur. I say stupid, because the men recorded the crime. They are on video, so they are going to get caught. It’s very sad that these men of today went to this level, but I am not the least bit surprised. All in all, these men should be punished. Yeah, I understand they didn’t like the way she was putting their business out there. But they could’ve taken other routes to handle it. And if they had to get hands put on her, at least get another woman to do it. If they were going to go that route.
@braxtonlebron
June 2, 2010 at 6:21 pm
I really didn’t like that they hit her. No matter what she has done via words. Smacking her down like that was uncalled for. And no, Fabolous, it is not “karma”. I have even heard women say that she deserved it. I don’t understand why people are so lax about violence. Very sad.
Kahari
June 2, 2010 at 8:16 pm
I love how you decided to address the fact that many of the young, gay men on Twitter responded in a nonchalant manner as we witnessed the retaliation of Kat Stacks’ blunt, disrespectful approach to outing the sexual business of those whom she encountered with. It just goes to prove that the maliciousness and competitive behaviorism that is widely embraced in the gay community is laced with an oxymoron: the desire to have feminine traits, yet still have the right to be masculine. Like you stated in the article above, you would think that the gays would be able to sympathize for her instead of critique and belittle her, because in a way, there’s an unconscious parallel between the struggles that women and the gay community has had in the past. But, we overseen that and looked at it as “she had it coming.” No one should fall victim to domestic violence due to defaming the name of others. If this goes overlooked, it’s obvious that we as a society has developed a violent mentality inspired by “karma.” In the famous words of Madea: “I gotta get him before he get me.” We gotta get it together, people.
Third Eye
June 2, 2010 at 9:43 pm
The thing that I don’t understand is why do these men care? If Bow Wow or Fabolous had confronted her that’s one thing, but why are these ninja’s attacking a woman they don’t know? Why do they fell malice toward her? I don’t get it. Why do people “go hard” for celebrities who wouldn’t spit on them if they were on fire? Bow Wow or Fabolous wouldn’t attack a girl for them. I just don’t get it. Then to make matters worse the fools film it.
I don’t care about ‘ol girl and to be honest I’m sure she used to getting slapped and beat….she is a hooker lol. Honestly, domestic violence is like the least of problems when it comes to her. I could give a damn if she gets slapped. I just don’t understand why these fools are fighting other peoples (they don’t know) battles.
Jordan
June 2, 2010 at 11:31 pm
Why is it that I completely disagree with this claim of abuse. I think she set this up and those are her cousins. I just don’t believe her, I can’t, I refuse to. First I don’t think Bow has goons, at all. 2nd I know Loso knows some brolic ass females that would have handled her. Thirdly those hits look like play hits, I thought at any moment she would say “Ray-Ray u play to damn much!” She just confuses me, I guess she thought this would be her one way ticket to TMZ and “fame”, back to the drawing board
caz
June 3, 2010 at 2:26 am
If this in fact was a real assualt, they all should be punished, including those “rappers’ who initiated it. The fact that they went to this extent makes me feel that there was some sort of truth to the things that she said about them. Bow Wow strikes me as the type of bitch nigga who would do some stuff like this.Even though Kat Stacks is trashy and trifling, she is a woman and any man who hits a woman is a bitch. Period.The Bitchassness of the act is so apparent. “If” you were so pissed about the situation why were u scared to confront a woman yourself. Bitchassness.
naenae
June 4, 2010 at 1:42 am
This woman was assaulted by these random man…What happened to her was not domestic violence ( that would imply that she was married and/or living with one of these idiots that started slapping her up). I also truly, truly believe that assault, whether coming from a woman to a man or vice versa, is uncalled for. Alot of people say they don’t condone violence against anyone, but then automatically go to the gender issue to say one is worse than the other, violence is violence period. And it’s disrespectful.
For anyone to say though that words, no matter what is said, are just words – we all know that there are things that have/could be said that potentially could anger a normally even tempered person to react. Words are POWERFUL but with that being said, what Kat Stacks has said ,IMO, is not that type of speech. I think people’s reaction to Kat Stacks being hit was based on their perceptions of what type of person people think she is. When the victim is unlikeable, most people don’t care ( as was evidenced by Perez Hilton’s crack in the mouth– no one shed a tear, right?)
You would think that all communities of people who have been discriminated against would “stick together” but people want to feel better about themselves and often that comes at the expense of others, so maybe that is what is happening here. IDK?
Missing
June 6, 2010 at 1:36 pm
NEWSFLASH! Humans have been violent animals for milennia. The question is: did she get what she deserved, or did others go too far with their revenge?
JI
June 10, 2010 at 5:21 pm
This post is brilliant. It pretty much perfectly articulates how I feel abvout this. We can’t let thgis kind of thing go on. The people who think it’s okay to violently assault women, are consistently the same people who violently assault gays and lesbians. It’s just not right, and it’s great to see people with a sense of morality.