Is It Safe To Say She Can Be Annoying?
I’ve been wanting to write this post for months, but resisted because I didn’t want to come across as a jackass. I can’t take it anymore, though. Call me a meanie and say what you will about me, however the fact remains: Gabourey Sidibe kind of annoys me.
Goodness, do I feel better for saying that out loud.
I’ve been reluctant to share that sentiment publicly because Gabourey seems so damn nice. Or at least she did until reports of how haughty she behaves towards fans and reporters alike started surfacing. Then came that TMZ video of her throwing shade to people who approached her for an autograph.
I initially dismissed the reports as some familiar instance of “the evil media” building one up only to tear them down. However, you can only hear one too many stories about a person before you start believing them.
Just today, I got a BBM from a friend who says Gabby was rude to their friend at a Gshock party in New York last night.
The messages read as follows:
“OMG. My friends from NY went to the Gshock party last night and she was there. One asked her for a photo and she replied with an attitude [and said] that, ‘It’s not a picture night!’
He was pissed about her attitude and said, ‘Have you seen you? Technically NO night is a picture night!’
He was drunk, though.”
Well, that fat joke is kind of mean — although I will note that once I began writing this post I remembered that I needed to eat. Wait, I’m not shit for that. I’m being evil and as an ex-fatty myself I normally have a soft spot for those with the softest bodies.
Honestly, I admire how confident she seems despite being morbidly obese. I wish I had the oomph the likes of her and Rick Ross have when I was riding the bench of Team Chunky Hunks. They sure know how to pimp the plump, don’t they?
But yeah, people have propped this girl up and more and more it seems like this bubbly act is just some shtick. An increasingly annoying one that’s becoming quite old.
I don’t want to hear about every random sex symbol she’d like to turn into her sexual chew toy. I almost feel like the people behind those sort of interview questions are secretly playing her. That’s the only reason why I sometimes want to say, you know what, go fat fucking. Then I think about it some more and realize I don’t like when any person talks about their “sexual seductions” too often.
I’m also tired of these, “Ooh, it’s so cool being a celebrity now” stories.
We get it. You’re famous. It’s cool.
Let me point out that I really, really liked her initially once she started doing promotion for Precious. She has a promising future as an actress and despite her size being an obvious hindrance, I hope she continues to find solid roles. I even look forward to seeing her in Showtime’s The Big C.
But yeah, she’s doing the most and I don’t see what reason she has to be rude to fans — especially when you consider that she’s only done one notable role.
I am somewhat bothered with the role the media has played in creating this monster.
Although Howard Stern and Robin Quivers were jackasses for the way they articulated their viewpoints, they were right in pointing out that she’s simply not healthy. But you can’t say anything critical of Gabby without being sent to eternal damnation.
And here I am sounding so evil as I criticize her for being too chipper (while seeming fake about it).
Even right now, I feel like I’m going to hell for writing this blog. Hell that will be a seafood restaurant fresh out of catfish. But yeah, I still feel the way that I do.
Am I alone?
m
August 3, 2010 at 9:38 pm
You are ABSOLUTELY not alone in your feelings. That avatar is like manna for my soul, I too feel the same way about her. Hopefully she will go, SAT DOWN!!!!, SIT ALL THE WAY DOWN and put a dent in the chair. Please take a break…..that is all ; )
Jordan
August 3, 2010 at 9:44 pm
Yeah, she’s pretty a much bitch. I hate to sound so mean but if she’s not a bitch then she’s pretty damn close.
Becky
August 3, 2010 at 9:53 pm
I feel you on this one and I totally agree.
When I first read the headline “Gabby likes Trey Songz” on Bossip it almost made my eyes roll out of my head. I absolutely hate it when black media includes fodder like this in their online content because it plays into the typical “big girl can’t have hot black guy but look at her pinning away” stereotype. But she’s also using it to garner attention which is okay I guess. Anything to keep your name out there. She really does need to get over this hype and focus on her career. Unfortunately, I still feel the need to support her because there is literally no one else who looks like her and has the power she does in Hollywood right now. The ends justify the means so I will put up with her attitude if it means ten other black actresses will at least get an audition in the process. And I know this sounds really weird but for her new part in the Showtime series maybe she’s decided to go more of the method actor route and has taken it a bit too far? A lot of young actors do this at first and then they learn its not feasible because it interferes with being able to function in real life.
Anyway, Great article <3 Blessings
Josh
August 4, 2010 at 1:09 am
Im going to go ahead and say that she has most likely been bullied growing up etc so now holds a resentment towards people who “now” find her this amazing “star”. Make sense?
Austin Brown
August 4, 2010 at 1:59 am
Now see you took the quote Mike, (can I call you Mike? I feel you and I should have met while you lived in NYC we would have been bestfriends, I know it!)
‘Have you seen you? Technically NO night is a picture night!’
I seen it as a slap in her face about her face… Its not just thats she obese, but I don’t find her to be attractive, not because of her size… I think there are A LOT of pretty face big girls.. I just don’t think she is!!
Christian
August 4, 2010 at 2:06 am
I thought I was the only one who had these guilty, yet pleasing thoughts. I feel better now. Maybe a secret club should be initiated?
Cassie
August 4, 2010 at 9:20 am
Thank you for this post. I totally agree with Austin about her just not being attractive. Size has nothing to do with how cute you are. She is not it. That voice, ugh. And lets not get on the same tired azz questions they keep asking her. Who cares who she wants to “get down with” because they don’t want it from her. Wheeewww that felt good. Keep it coming Mikey(yes, we’re friends in my head so I call you Mikey) LOL
sickwitit
August 4, 2010 at 12:33 pm
its all a defense mechanism, imagine all the fakeness she has to deal with now with people callin her beautiful and ask who’s she’s dating when A) she probably doesnt feel beautiful B) she probably has never been in a real relationship and C) the worst thing to feel is to be an adult and be pitied.
give her a break…
Hookerboots
August 4, 2010 at 1:51 pm
I just can’t Yall….(dipping buffalo wings)
Moe
August 4, 2010 at 3:28 pm
YES! YES! YES! Thank you for writing this. I too was afraid to admit that she doesn’t sit well with me. Ms. Sidibe should have never said anything about liking Trey Songz. That was just a joke. Your friend was right ‘No night is a picture night’ for her. I agree with Austin. I read that being more about her face than her body. Queen Latifah is a healthy framed woman and she is gorgeous. The same is true for Jill Scott. Sidibe is simply not it in the face. She needs to get all the way over herself if she is battling issues of being picked on as a child or encountering a lot of phony people in her rise to fame. She pursued this lifestyle and along with it comes fans. She should respect them even if they are being fake. All publicity is not good publicity. Doing the wrong thing can ruin a career…especially one as potentially temporary as hers.
Sasha
August 4, 2010 at 11:14 pm
it would be hypocritical however for you not to go after actresses like Sanaa Lathan and her habitual rudeness in the same way, but as often w/ men and their visual needs “beauty” which is society’s grossest prejudice get’s a free pass. I still don’t get the connection between Gabby’s rudeness and size going in the same breath. And when you talk about being concerned for her “health” you neglect to mention every rude, pretty, skinny and acceptable looking actress whose undergone plastic surgery or suffers from anorexia which is just as dangerous as “obesity.” I get the feeling if Halle Berry refused an autograph you would not attack her in this same aesthetic fashion…leave a person’s character and physicality as mutually exclusive. Her weight is not your business or concern and someone as utterly disgusted by her as you seem to be it’s quite odd that you actually care so much for her health and well being.
Michael
August 4, 2010 at 11:27 pm
Actually, Sasha, I have talked about Sanaa Lathan before on here and in work so before you throw out blanket generalizations based on gender how about you do your research. There is a search feature on the site. Google is always a gem as well.
I neglected to discuss other actresses because the post isn’t about other actresses, it’s about Gabourey Sidibie.
And with all due respect, spare me that comparison. Anorexia is a problem as is her obesity. A tit for tat for doesn’t negate the obvious: She’s too big. It’s unhealthy. Being grossly overweight is a serious epidemic in this country and one doesn’t necessarily reinforce unattainable standards of beauty by stating such.
As for talking about her appearance in jest, that’s a common theme on this site as well. In fact, I’ve talked about my own appearance in similar fashion several times on here. Again, know of what you speak.
For the record, as a public figure, her appearance does matter. It’s why she was cast in the role that made her famous, it has a lot to do with the type of press that she receives (which has largely been favorable), and in general one’s appearance matters when working in the entertainment industry (for better or worse).
In the end, the post focuses on her attitude, which has consistently taken a hit with her growing fame. Even after this post was published others have shared their own experiences with Ms. Sidibe. The comments about her weight were merely a portion of a much bigger narrative.
My post seems to have struck a nerve. That wasn’t my intention, but while you are free to disagree with me be certain of my consistency on my site before you question it.
Thank you for reading.
monica
August 5, 2010 at 7:19 am
Drops mic…
Gemmy
August 5, 2010 at 12:40 pm
I agree with Sickwitit.
Crystal
August 5, 2010 at 2:47 pm
I agree with you, Michael, but I have to say I loathe you for pulling out Vintage Ric Flair saying: “WOOOO!”
TNR
August 5, 2010 at 5:29 pm
I have to disagree with the line you can only hear one too many stories before you believe them” Hence that illumnati crap about your girl Beyonce and Jayz. That story is everywhere but it doesn’t make it true
As someone who is new to fame, I think she deserves a break. Im sure it is hard to come to grip with people interupting you while out with friends and family for a picture or an autograph. Knowing how sick/slick people are these days with photoshop I would neva take a picture with someone.
There isn’t a handbook for becoming famous, so lets build our own first and not be the first people to tear them down!
Michael
August 5, 2010 at 6:06 pm
The Illuminati is a conspiracy theory more comparable to Santa Clause than a story widely reported from journalists both in print and on camera. Not to mention, I’ve heard these stories (plural) from people I know personally. That’s really not the same as an Internet rumor passed around that’s supported by highly subjective and often doctored “symbolism” and mythology.
There are a lot of people ‘new to fame’ who don’t behave that way. There isn’t a handbook on being famous, but there is common decency and a level of respect you should pay to your fellow man. That’s the type of lesson passed down to everyone regardless of their level of fame or socioeconomic status.
I’m not tearing her down. She’s doing that herself.
Token
August 5, 2010 at 6:07 pm
Anytime you can let off a Ric Flair “Wooooooooo”…you are having a good day.
sickwitit
August 5, 2010 at 7:58 pm
There are a lot of people ‘new to fame’ who don’t behave that way. There isn’t a handbook on being famous, but there is common decency and a level of respect you should pay to your fellow man. That’s the type of lesson passed down to everyone regardless of their level of fame or socioeconomic status.
I’m not tearing her down. She’s doing that herself.
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how many people new to fame look like her? ill wait…
also ive yet to see how her “rude” behavior has gotten in the way of her work…
Chelle
August 5, 2010 at 8:34 pm
Gabby appears dissociated in a sense. She has that all the world’s a stage persona that many children who’ve experienced trauma have. Seems like she channels the privileged white girl to me. I doubt she even processed the picture comment because her defense mechanism may have said “you’re beneath me”. And I doubt this behavior just started.
ChelaBella
August 10, 2010 at 10:35 pm
As a longtime reader- first time commentor, I have to say this piece is disappointing. For someone who’s work I generally find amusing, you failed to hit your point home because you chose to take the mean route. Yes, strong rumors persistently indicate Gabby is mean. Yes, she is obese. And, yes, maybe her new-found fame in conjunction with her weight/self-esteem issues (which we are assuming she has. Most likely does, but ya neva know) can be a reason for her nastiness. But you didn’t articulate that with this piece. And the irony, being the cherry on top, is you did the very thing you’re criticizing her for!
In the post, you went from the rumors to first-hand accounts of people who witness her bad attitude. Fine. You then went from the bbm quote to uncalled for fat jokes.
“… I will note that once I began writing this post I remembered that I needed to eat. Wait, I’m not shit for that. I’m being evil and as an ex-fatty myself I normally have a soft spot for those with the softest bodies.
Honestly, I admire how confident she seems despite being morbidly obese. I wish I had the oomph the likes of her and Rick Ross have when I was riding the bench of Team Chunky Hunks. They sure know how to pimp the plump, don’t they?”
Okay, I guess. But then you tepidly try to explain something about being an ex fatty n having a soft spot for softies… All while being unnecessarily mean, faking this “Go, fat girl, go!” sentiment and losing the point of the post altogether. That, followed by some shallow remark about her obesity being a health concern. Right. You’re not concerned about her health. You’re concerned about why this fat girl can even think about being nasty to fans. The post, which had me up until the insults, could’ve been better if you just stuck to the fact that there is evidence of her being a bitch n the disdain that comes w that because she is the only overweight black woman working this difficult industry. I can feel that. If that didn’t happen, fine, I wouldn’t bother u about it. But, you left yourself open to criticism when you attacked a commentor:
“Actually, Sasha, I have talked about Sanaa Lathan before on here and in work so before you throw out blanket generalizations based on gender how about you do your research. There is a search feature on the site. Google is always a gem as well”
Why such a cuntified reply? To a fan at that. Even if said fan doesn’t necessarily agree with you (while making valid points), the way you responded was harsh. For a post in which you heavily criticize an actual celebrity for the same behavior. If this is how you talk to people who read n comment on your site (read: supporting YOUR work n future), and you don’t have nearly the same name recognition or fame as Gabby, I can only imagine how nasty you’d be if you actually did become a famous writer. The post n comment said more about you as a person than about Gabby.
And that made me a lil sad.
Michael
August 10, 2010 at 11:08 pm
Respectfully, if you’re a longtime reader and you found this post of all posts to be the most mean then you probably haven’t been reading as long as you think.
I’ve been far harsher – about myself, about people related to me, about politicians and pop stars – than this.
The reason why I responded in a “cuntified” way is because I was branded a hypocrite who wouldn’t dare talk about some thinner celebrity in the same breathe — which couldn’t be further from the truth and five years of posting is proof of that.
I said it that way because I believed some threw a lot my way without even bothering to do their research.
Speaking of that, none of what was posted here about Gabby’s behavior is a ‘rumor.’ The articles listed were first-hand accounts of reporters (political ones at that) in national newspapers. The others were first hand accounts from people I know. The only exception would be the first hand account from the friend of someone I know personally — which is still published and linked on their respective site.
Gabby could easily disagree with their interpretations of said events, but none classify as a ‘rumor.’
As for this: “Right. You’re not concerned about her health. You’re concerned about why this fat girl can even think about being nasty to fans.”
This is you projecting a sentiment on to me. If those were my feelings than I’d say them as such. I’ve said even less popular opinions on the blog before.
Speaking of projection, I think the same can be said of some commentators who feel as though her purported nasty attitude is a defense mechanism about her weight. Personally, I believe Gabby at her word that for several years she has liked her size and thus, has had a chipper attitude. She is not Precious. I get it. Why don’t others?
I acknowledged that I feel like a mean ass for publicly saying her chipperness sort of seems extra and thus, irks me. I’m aided by the fact that the chipper attitude could possibly be not as true as she lets on (or at least used to be) because she’s becoming rude to fans. This is all explained plainly in the post.
Jokes about her size aren’t that any different from jokes I’ve made about my teeth, my weight, my hair, the sound of my voice, or some pop star’s weave, their thinness, or whatever superficial comment made in jest is said here.
I’m an equal opportunity offender to the point where I make fun of myself routinely. Again, anyone who claims to read this site for an extended period would know that. But to be honest, those were a few lines of a much longer post that had nothing to do with her weight. If you dislike the humor, that’s fair. Those projections aren’t.
As for the end of your comment, again, if you think [this] is how I normally respond to people on here, you haven’t been reading this site as long as you think you have. You are, however free to interpret my work and me however you choose to. It doesn’t make it true. The same can be said about Gabby and my post.
Thankfully, though, your synopsis of me based on this post is not a common sentiment. I appreciate you reading, I really do, but I don’t make any apologies for correcting something I think is flat out nonsense. And by nonsense, I mean some ole bullshit.
There’s a way you respond to people. When people are respectful, I am. When they aren’t, sometimes I respond accordingly although I don’t think my post or my responses here are all that “mean.” In any event, thank you for reading.
TC
August 12, 2010 at 4:19 pm
i am late but came via “i see you’ll get mad”
in short: AGREED!
I totally agree…
Sunny
August 17, 2010 at 8:02 pm
You aren’t alone…. she IS always telling “It’s cool to be a celeb now” stories which really grates my nerves. I wonder if she had any friends before “the celebrite” though.
Asher
August 20, 2010 at 1:48 pm
all i have to add is an lol..