Girl, Wake Up
Let me start off by saying that I’m happy Fantasia isn’t dead. That would really, really suck considering she just got her GED and has both a new album and reality show to promote. Plus, she is somebody’s mama. Speaking of her parental status, while I’m glad she’s safe after an alleged suicide attempt, for the sake of her and her kid I hope someone pulls her to the side and shakes some of the stupid out of her.
That should not to be interpreted as an example of my insensitivity towards those who have attempted or contemplated suicide. Quite the contrary, I understand those in pain and despair. The stupid in Fantasia’s situation refers to the actions that brought her to the moment she felt compelled to mix her poisons.
I don’t know why everyone is following the Alicia Keys guide to love, but I wish someone would send out a bat signal that in most cases it’s probably not in one’s best interest to slurp someone’s spouse.
Already I can hear the jezebel comebacks.
You’re playing with fire when dating someone who is still legally bound to another. Whatever rationale you can conjure up in defense of adultery, I disagree. You need more people — namely those who handle divorces.
For Fantasia’s sake, I truly hope she didn’t really tell her married boyfriend’s wife: “He don’t want you. Maybe the next time that you get a husband you’ll know how to keep him. That’s why he is here with me.”
Anyone who talks like that should come with a side of red beans and rice.
Ya’ll, I sing-a-long to MoKenStef, too, but where are they right now? Probably still using Palmer products to treat the stab wounds some man’s girlfriend and/or wife left in them. If proven true, that statement totally leaves her susceptible to a future suit given that homewrecker law they have in North Carolina and six other states.
On top of that Fantasia’s lawyer had the gall to tell her married boyfriend’s wife, “The fact that she would seek such publicity in a case involving her children is particularly disgraceful.”
Your client has a married man’s name tattooed on her and the wife is the disgraceful one? Heavens to murgatroyd, how many cans of Four Loko did you have before writing that down?
Fantasia has already proven herself to be dishonest when it comes to Antwuan Cook. Initially, she denied knowing him despite his last name being plastered on her body (instead of a marriage license) and plenty of pictures linking the two together appeared online.
After a while she did acknowledge that she knew him, only that he was a “friend.” Now that she’s been called out on it, her manager is releasing statements claiming Fantasia was misled.
The statement read:
Fantasia believed Mr. Cook when he told her he was not happy in his marriage and his heart was not in it. She believed him when he told her he and Mrs. Cook separated in the late summer of 2009. She believed Mr. Cook when he told her he lived elsewhere.
He even took her there. One of Mr. Cook’s most redeeming qualities was his complete devotion to his children. Fantasia fell in love with Mr. Cook and believed that he loved her.
Fantasia and Mr. Cook dated on and off for about eleven months. The pressure of the constant media attention was hard on their relationship. Fantasia gave inconsistent interviews about the status of her relationship with Mr. Cook because sometimes they were on and sometimes they were off.
He goes on to note that, “There is plenty she does not know.”
You don’t say.
This is exactly why you wait until a divorce is finalized before you pop, lock, and drop it on a person.
I can understand the temptation that had to have been there especially if they made a connection. Believe me, Tasie Mae, if Will Smith even shook one of those big ears at me in flirtation in my mind I’d start researching boarding schools for Jaden and Willow.
But you know what, even if I had a signed permission slip from Jada Pinkett Smith to oochie bang bang her husband I know I’d be dead wrong.
Blame the media all you want, however, no blogger, reporter, or radio/TV personality told Fantasia to date somebody’s husband and lie about it. No one also told people in her camp to be so detailed in their statements about her personal life. Not to mention flat out tacky.
Are they really shouting out God in a story about adultery while plugging her album after an apparent suicide attempt?
What works at church lock ins and cookouts doesn’t necessarily work elsewhere.
I really hope Fantasia takes this as an opportunity to see the error of her ways and take heed to the advice NeNe Leakes shared with wig loving mistress, Kim Zolciak: “Close your legs to married men.”
I also pray someone slips her some self-esteem. Girl, you won “The Idol” (please pronounce it the way Tasia’s kinfolk did), don’t you dare try to off yourself over some dude that works at T-Mobile.
At the most I would scrap my knuckles for somebody working at Verizon or AT&T — but only if they gave me the hook up on my bill. Let’s value our hearts and privates better, people.
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Delita
August 11, 2010 at 8:13 am
Enough sald ! I mean really Fannie, if you took more time learning to read the laws of North Carolina then laying up with someone’s husband you would no they don’t play that. I am even more disturbed that instead of lying in the bed you made she tried to kill herself. One question, did you ever consider your child through the whole thing? Some say the wife is being vindictive and money hungry Fannie’s a celebrity and if she was a regular chick it wouldn’t be all this. Well I say go for it Mrs. Cook because Ms. Fantasia evidently doesn’t mind paying for some penis that doesn’t belong to her. So annoyed by all these nasty ass jumpoffs!! I’m married and would hold my husband first and foremost responsible, but damn as a woman can we have some respect for ourselves. IJS…
Wade
August 11, 2010 at 10:20 am
LMAO! This post gave me everything I need Michael…..from the Everybody Hates Chris gif (a hilarious show that was cancelled too soon), to a 90′s girl group (yall know “He’s Mine” was a banger – the original AND remixed versions), to a RHOA quote that has become a staple with me and my friends….Classic…THANKS!
Now on to Fanny. *sigh* I really like her and the “leaked” songs that are on this forthcoming album, but she dug this ditch for herself. She has a HORRIBLE publicist/manager and someone needs to be fired. Hopefully she can bounce back and leave that loser Cook alone for good. Lawd knows she has enough mouths to feed with her family dippin in her pockets, there’s no way she can afford to pay Cook’s ex-wife too!
I'm Just Saying
August 11, 2010 at 10:47 am
Poor Fantasia. I REALLY like her and I know everyone is going to dislike her (if they’re not already) due to this situation. But to keep it real, I have ALWAYS been someone who is able to separate the talent from a celebrity’s personal life. Yes, R Kelly pissed on that underage girl, but he can still SANG/produce the hell out of a track. Yes, Chris Brown beat that girl in the face, but that still doesn’t mean “Forever” isn’t my jam. Yes, A. Keys and Fantasia are #deadwrong, but it doesn’t negate the fact that they’re both talented and can actually SING.
Let’s not get it twisted I am in NO WAY condoning any of these people for their acts of indiscretion, but “Let he without sin cast the first stone.” When I go to Best Buy to spend my $9.99 on an album I could care less what an artist does in their free time. As long as the beat is catchy and their voice sounds good, I will support them musically. That said, she STILL should not have been dating/banging/spending time with a married man. But we ALL make mistakes, and this (unfortunately) is her very public and messy mistake.
Hopefully she can redeem herself and bounce back. And hopefully everyone in those glass houses will put down those stones. But even if they don’t, I’ll still be there August 24 to pick up her new album! (that new single “Man of the House” is FIYA!) lol
Cassie
August 11, 2010 at 10:55 am
***side eye at Fanny….I think that this is Teeny’s fault LOLOL if Teeny wasn’t worried about Fanny changing after she won “the idol” she wouldn’t have been so crazy as to think that “Cook” wasn’t with his wife….So everybody should really just leave Fanny alone and blame Teeny….and that Aunt from the show….instead of chasing Teeny down to a roach infested house, they should have been laying hands on Fanny #thatisall
Alex
August 11, 2010 at 2:23 pm
This is by far the BEST blog you’ve ever written! THANK YOU!!!! lol A*
Chelle
August 11, 2010 at 2:37 pm
I was done with her for missing The Color Purple shows. A flake.
Mia
August 12, 2010 at 8:00 am
I’m just saying, I don’t know if everybody is going to dislike her, it seems to me that Alicia Keys got even more popular after her triflin-ness! lol
I don’t feel sorry for Fanny, shes an idiot, you have a child and you are so selfish and weak willed that you will try to kill yourself over a no good married bum? She really needs to re-evaluate some thangs in her misbegotten life, her child and dignity should have come first before this foolishness!
Get it together Fanny, you have a child to think about!
Wanda Thomas
August 26, 2010 at 3:14 pm
Fanny is ghetto and she is showing it!!!!