So I forgot to mention this a couple of days ago, but for those of you who don’t follow me on Twitter (if you’re on Twitter, read this site and don’t follow me — I mean, what’s the issue?) and missed it I did chime on Aliya S. King’s article, “The Mean Girls of Morehouse.”
I won’t rehash my opinion here, but if you want to read what I thought about that whole ordeal you can click here to see what I told VIBE.com in their Bloggers Circle.
I never really wanted to write so in depth about sexuality — especially mine. However, since last year I’ve started to open up more about it and I think it’s for the better. Mainly because I see the dangers in letting outsiders take control of the narrative.
That in no way is a knock to Aliya, whom I adore. Not the Prince “Adore,” because she’s a married lady but as a writer and worker she’s amazing. Plus, super duper sweet. Fantastic is she.
That said, her piece was well written but the responses to it and maybe the whole story in general just reminds me of how important it is to be a part of the conversation.
I have read a couple published pieces on the story since it went live and to be honest a lot of what I’ve seen has driven me mad.
People have good intentions, but people always like to make things out of something that isn’t there. People also like to exploit issues – both accidentally and not – for the sake of pumping out their own agenda. We all carry with us our own personal biases, yet we need to know when to see things how they are versus what we want them to be.
Given many choose not to do so I often worry that the discussion will never elevated. That is, unless more people who live in and endure it speak on it. So, as I’ve gotten more comfortable with embracing what I feel needs to be said you can expect to hear more about such issues from me. Here, there, and hopefully on your bookshelves in due time.
Consider yourself warned.