A Lil’ Mean, Kinda Racist, and Definitely Insecure

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While I respect Rihanna’s indirect endorsement of generic products and proving a point many have long advocated – more times than not it’s the same damn thing as the name brand item – can we address something else about this photo and its context? You know, how kinda racist it is. Well, not even kinda. It’s quite racist.

I know, I know: It’s not fun to get all serious about a joke. However, considering Rihanna was the same person who only a couple of weeks ago lashed out at a foreign magazine via Twitter for “complimenting” her as the “ultimate niggabitch,” it is worth noting how rather peculiar it is to see her on that same social media service being racist not very long after.

I suppose that point is lost for a number of reasons, but the biggest one from a Twitter standpoint is that most are caught up in the splender of shade to notice that and what else is wrong about Rihanna’s onslaught of subtweets about Karrueche Tran. There are a lot of people who take great joy in being a fucking asshole. A whole bunch of these kind of people congregate online and behave like some kind of support group. Rihanna’s antics as of late have been sending all sorts of tingles up their respective legs.


I find Rihanna to be incredibly witty and fun. At the same time, she’s behaving like a MoKenStef lyric. I’m hoping that this is some kind of twisted game that she, Chris, and his girlfriend are involved in. That would make her actions even more annoying, but at least I’d be able to evade the following conclusion: She is painfully insecure. And, more and more sounding a little hurt to boot.

Rihanna is a megastar who, like it or not, is increasingly breaking all of our favorites’ records. She is gorgeous, successful, and from the looks of it, is only due for wider success in the near future. To that end, why is she online unleashing a bunch of salty tasting tweets about the girl currently with her ex? And yes, I’m gonna say it: The ex that beat the hell out of her.

While a bunch of other like-minded assholes are cheering her actions on, it’s making me look at Rihanna bit differently. We all have our jealous moments, but some of us seem to handle them better than others. And really, what did that other girl do to you to deserve so much of your attention, Rih-Rih?

For the record, I may be singling out a certain mindset I keep noticing online, but I am not one to feign aloofness towards my own wisecracking ways. I’m also very much aware of how mean I can become if I feel provoked. The latter is more so from a personal standpoint than anything I put in writing, though they are equally things that I try to keep in check. Part of that comes from recognizing that certain lines shouldn’t be crossed — especially not publicly.

Not to mention, I came to understand over time where some of my less than likable behavior comes from. I hope that is something Rihanna comes to see on her own. I say that after watching a recent interview she gave on The Jonathan Ross Show. Her comments about her pop star competition explained a lot — namely her Twitter stunts.

She said: “I feel like women are becoming so dominant in music right now because we’re very competitive beings and we cannot stand to see another woman do better than us, you know? That bothers us a lot. As much as you guys have egos, our egos are little bigger, we’re just a lot better at hiding them.”

Rihanna essentially sold out her gender with that statement. Oddly enough, some of the people mentioned in the prefacing question – Beyoncé and Lady Gaga, for example – have discussed the competitive spirit but each quickly acknowledged how happy they are to see other women do well. The fact that Rihanna can’t be happy for another woman says much about her character. Every woman, including her, deserve more credit than what she’s giving them.

The source of her troubles are easily traceable. While working elsewhere, I came across some interview her father gave to a magazine yesterday. After boasting about how he told her she was getting fat (this is how complexes are formed, FYI), Ronald Fenty got even more personal about his kid’s affairs by saying, “Chris is a nice guy and everybody’s entitled to make mistakes in their life. God knows how many I’ve made.”

His include beating his mom and addiction. Mean as if I’ve found some of her online ways to be, I get the sense that she’s still dealing with some residual hurt. As someone who grow up around violence and addiction, I understand that all too well. One thing is for certain, though: Unleashing it on someone else won’t make it better.

Sure, it’s “funny,” but it’s still rooted in a particular brand of misery. For her sake, I hope she’s not taking cues from the people cheering her brand of bitchy on. Misery always enjoyed a crowd, but there’s a reason why those folks are typically stuck together.

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