Let The Sex Tape Talk Die Already

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Maybe you’ve noticed, but a lot of people do not like Kimberly Kardashian. I’m not among them, but as write in my latest for Ebony.com, while I understand reasoning behind some of the detraction, there’s one pesky instance that really irks me: The notion that she’s a hoe. I’ve heard people near and far declare to be one based on a single act and I find it troubling.

Here’s a peek of the piece:

She doesn’t bother me in the least, but I can see why some don’t care for Kim Kardashian. She’s merely the most successful symptom of an otherwise greater systematic problem in our culture, yet I understand how Kim could come across as a vapid opportunist with no discernible talent. And yeah, that can be kind of annoying, especially if she’s sort of a media whore to boot.

There are two gripes about the person I like to refer to as “the Beyoncé of nothing” (it’s kind of a compliment) that irk me, though. The first is the disingenuous question (that comes with an obvious insinuation), “What does Kim Kardashian do?” She tells viewers banal stories of about her life in the best clothes on E! Oh, and use her celebrity to hawk various things no one really needs for bountiful amounts of cash. Duh.

The other complaint expressed by Kim’s numerous detractors is more nefarious and always manages to be brought into the conversation anytime something new is being reported about her: That she’s a hoe. A hoe whose purported promiscuity is the source of every single success she enjoys – thereby making her undeserving.

The criticism was particularly nasty when Kim announced her engagement to Kris Humphries. The marriage was a blink-and-you-missed-it-affair, but way too many people suggested she was unworthy of even brief marital bliss based on their assumptions about her sexual history. As soon as her relationship with Kanye West became public, it felt like déjà vu. Even ‘Ye’s rap brethren joined in as Cam’ron took to Twitter to talk about Kim K. by professing “hoes be winning.”

It doesn’t take a genius to figure out that her first widespread news headline – a sex tape with Ray J – is the source of that branding, but the complaints are unfair and problematic for varying reasons. Most of which revolve around the sexism attached to the sentiment. Frankly, there’s no real basis to make such a harsh declaration, and even if you don’t care about Kim Kardashian per se, there’s still something wrong with allowing rigid ideas of sexuality to stigmatize someone for their entire lives.

Okay, so she taped herself boning Brandy’s brother, but engaging in sexual voyeurism (of any form) doesn’t necessarily make a whore. If you’re some Puritan who thinks otherwise, chances are you suspect a huge chunk of the people around you are tramps. Present company included.

The rest can be read by clicking this link. And no, I didn’t write this just because Kim should be my sister-in-law. Although I probably would entertain the idea of filming me and Rob. I mean, some accomplishments need to be record. You know, God forbid my memory goes bad. Totally kidding! I guess. Go read and spread, y’all.

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