You’re Smiling, But You’re Still Salty
You can speak your words into a fancier accent when it suits you, but bullshit is bullshit no matter how you choose to enunciate it. That’s how I’ve been feeling about Tami Roman’s response to the response of the criticism leveled against her. She just wouldn’t own up to her actions. Well, she admits she misbehaved a little bit, though she continues to operate from the pretense that she was provoked.
Worse, she had the sheer gall to act like she’s been victimized herself via Twitter. That comes across as laughable as it does annoying. It’s also the reason God created the emphasis on the word girl.
Initially, I was all but ready to pounce like everyone else, but only a few weeks ago did my own Tami Roman come out. To the point where I had to nix any plans to be too critical for fear of coming across as a hypocrite. I will say this, though: She needs to find a camera who refuses to film their sessions. Such a move would get her to ultimately turn off her fancy voice and get to the real source of her issues.
She makes more than $300,000 a year thanks to her Basketball Wives gig. She can afford help. If I could cover the cost of regular therapy, I most definitely would be in there getting my Frasier on. It beats the Budweiser approach to problem solving (i.e. coping).
Okay, who am I kidding? I have a little more to say than just that. Last nite’s episode and this interview made me want to revisit this again.
As I tweeted yesterday, “Tami Roman is like what happens when you never replace the bottle of self-esteem you pawned.” Also: “And y’all will not tell me ouch about that Tami tweet. She has the sweetness of the dude who tried to kill Free Willy for the insurance [money].”
Word.
I find it so funny how quick Tami runs behind Evelyn Lozada, the woman who told her that she screwed her then-husband and how she didn’t matter at the time of the adulterous act. On top of that, she chose to make a profit off her humiliation and even after Tami appealed to her (non-existent) better senses, Evelyn maintained the “Fuck you, pay me” mantra.
Of all the people you work with, Tami, Kesha Nichols and Jennifer Williams are your biggest troubles? Oh and Royce Reed, too, now apparently since she won’t lie to you the way Shaunie and Evilyn do. C’mon nah.
I used to really like Tami, but I don’t get her. For what it’s worth, I don’t think her kids deserve to be slighted for their mama’s issues. I’m even glad Tami is managing to find work despite the dense shit she does on the show. However, at one point do you stop and say to yourself, “I’m 120 in entertainment years, when am I gonna grow up?” And by watching her and Evilyn cut up every week as true assholes in need of anger management, I’m definitely looking at myself thinking, “Dear, God. Don’t ever let me end up this damn miserable.”
Wow. i don’t know whats wrong with you Mikey, but i have never been more turned off by one of your articles. Obviously the girl has issues that she needs to work through, its a giving. But do you think the way you are addressing this situation is helping? I grew up in the hood, and i know plenty of grown ass women who act the same if not worse than woman like Tami and Ev, and wouldn’t even own up to their faults. And then its other women who act just as angry who are not from the hood, and need to have their issues worked out. It is so quick to point the finger at the stronger personality without looking at their issues they have been facing their whole life, which you don’t seem to be able to relate too, as well as the behavior of those they come in contact with. Tami nor Ev acted of pure hatred, they reacted to circumstances in which they felt attack. The retaliation they took may have not been suitable but, it is not something done from pure malice or ill intent. And the fact that you as a grown man and professional writer is calling some one “Evilyn” when their are actual villians in this world that make many unsuspecting and completely undeserving lives miserable makes me question you as a person. I give you way more credit then a lot of these bloggers and i deeply value your opinion. However, this came of ass some generic “i can’t stand these bitches because their bullies” type article that you see on the comment section of low-rate gossip blogs. And the fact that in your lastest article you are bullying Lil Kim on her physical appearance makes me wonder about your hypocrisy…
1. I’m from the hood, so that excuse is trite.
2. I’ve written at length about being subjected to violence and forms of abuse in my home, so again, whatever.
3. They do take joy out of bullying people, so their actions are intentional. And for the record, do you watch this show all the time? There have been countless times they acted like cunts for the fuck of it.
4. Sarcasm: meet it and love it.
5. Bullying is an overused term because it’s trendy. I’m not standing over Lil’ Kim saying, “BITCH, SAY YOU SORRY ABOUT YOUR PLASTIC SURGERY!” ala Tami Roman, though if you still find me hypocritical, welp, that’s fine.
6. I literally referenced my own Tami Roman in the post, so evidently, maybe I do know a thing or two about anger and resentment.
I normally don’t respond to people ’cause ideally readers should have the last word, but while I honestly don’t care if you question me as a person, what you’re not gonna do is make some uninformed opinion about me on my own site. To that end, thank you are reading, though while you are free to have whatever opinion of me you choose to, if you’re going to articulate it at length, you’d be best be informed.
On that note, thanks again for reading.
1) That excuse is not “trite” because i was not excusing their behavior with being from the hood, i said i was raised in the hood..The projects to be exact…and have seen many women act like that. My own family members in particular, and i personally know some of the stem of their problems come from things like drug abuse, sexual molestation, domestic abuse, and so on and so forth. You make these women to be so one dimensional when there are many facets to their lives neither you or I know about.
2). If you have experience violence in your own home, then why can’t you form some kind of empathy towards these women? I know from my own personal experience with domestic violence in my home, it has inspired many instances of violence and coldness to people in degrees sometimes undeserving. Its not something I am proud of but, its something i acknowledge and I am working on. (And my comment to you was very sincere, i really don’t appreciate the response of “whatever” being that i would expect that from someone like Tami who you scold in your article for the same “aggressive type of behavior)
3). They take the joy out of bullying? Um, look at the behavior of all the other women. LIke Susie and Jen before they became “victims”. Or how about when Royce joined the I hate Gloria club, on season one and strapped them gloves on like she was Mayweather or something. Even Keisha got her kicks out of calling Kenya crazy and what not, and was quick to join that bandwagon against Kenya throwing her under the bus as soon as opportunity knocked.
4) I know sarcasm very well, and while although you are very good at it, in this article it came of as passive-aggressive bullying of Tami and “Evilyn” as you so call her. People are so quick to use sarcasm as an escape-hatch when they should just own up to their bull.
5). Words hurt, if Lil Kim, some one with extreme low-self esteem were to see the headline “Face like Heathcliff, Body like Penguin” do you think she would not be seriously offended. Shit Keisha was offended just because Tami questioned her blackness (which shit, i had my questions to) which created a snowball effect and is the basis of your article. To me the way your addressing Kim is no better. Wrong is wrong.
6). If you know so much about anger and resentment, you would be able to understand that what your doing hear is not helping. Its only making the situation worse. As well your “Tami Roman” is not the same as the experiences of the actual Tami Roman. Just because you were able to deal with your problems in which they way you could, does not mean you should judge her because she is not as astute as you are in self-healing and evaluation.
And i really don’t know how I am making uninformed opinions about your site. First of all, my comment was mostly questioning you as a person, specifically your character. It had nothing to do with the quality of your blog, so i really don’t understand where that is coming from. As an avid reader of yours, not just your blog, but your other stuff too…i felt as though that i am very familiar with your voice and that my opinion about you as a writer as a whole is informed. Thank you for your response. Although i would have preferred something more level headed and in-depth, instead of what i got which was an angry low quality “read” that went left of my actual points into a tangent of hurt feelings, its all good all the same.
And this is why I don’t usually bother. You didn’t hurt my feelings. I don’t especially care about what you think about my character. I don’t care about any stranger’s expectations of me either. What I don’t like is an uninformed opinion, especially on my site. A point you seem to have misinterpreted based on your post. This entry is on par with any other one, so again, think whatever you want, but don’t blab about people not understanding pain and someone’s background when you are unaware of what’s been written beforehand. Several times at that. I even invoke my own struggles with anger in this very post and why I initially didn’t touch it. Sometimes I have empathy for people, other times I don’t. I don’t find Tami to be genuine, hence the commentary. I don’t agree with your assessment about her or Evelyn’s behavior. Or the idea that talking about ridiculous plastic surgery is in the same family of their antics. If you think so, this site might not be for you because you’ll constantly think of “bullying.” Like, this is silly. And over with. Happy reading…or not.
Goodbye.
My reaction to the “newly deconstructed” Tami is in direct harmony with the spirit of this post. In past seasons, she was definitely my favorite; but she’s now become an irrational bully — constantly over-hustling her controversy game to continue being a relevant character on the show. FAIL!
BTW, Mr. Arceneaux — Usage of the Tami-Romanesque phrase “…what you’re NOT gonna do is…” in your comment-section banter above was NOT lost on me. Love it!!! LOL!