Dealbreaker

So I’ve taken part in Good magazine’s “Dealbreaker” series with an essay called, “He’s In Love With Jesus.” This underwent a lot of back and forth between me and my editor on the piece. That said, I know it might read differently than the personal works y’all have read on the site (possibly a good thing, you can tell me). I should note that the more I looked over the essay the more it almost felt like an amalgamation because I quickly became aware of all I’ve felt this sort of pressure from a variety of people for quite some time. It’s honestly more about what the person referenced represented than the guy himself (shade).

You know, given I’ve been a sad R&B song over someone else for so long anyway. Let’s stop over sharing for a moment, shall we? Hopefully, I’ll get the chance to explore more about myself, religion and sexuality in that thing I really, really want (really). That was largely the motivation for me to even try my hand at this.

Okay, enough of my babble. Click here to read Dealbreaker: He’s in Love With Jesus. Feel free to tweet, hit like on Facebook, and offer your commentary on the site.

And if you care, there’s other stuff like “Not The Marrying Kind” and “Accepting Where My Piece Blows.”

Gon’ now.

He Rants At Length When Asked

Quick note: Last Friday I took part in The Root’s weekly podcast, The Confab, to talk about my article “Breakup With Boyfriend Barack” published on the site last week. If you’re trying to pass the time at work or you know, actually want to hear me speak you can click here. Being three hours behind from just about everywhere you write has its disadvantages at times, which is why after the podcast I told everyone, “I hope I ain’t sound crazy, y’all.” Feel free to let me know if you’re interested. Practice makes perfect or something.

Husbands and Boyfriends

I have two pieces up today about two separate trends that irritate my spirit.

The first doesn’t affect me in any particular way, though I find it annoying all the same. Black women, I don’t know why the media has decided to act like somebody’s nagging mama ready to see you get married and put some beans in that oven, but I wish they would stop.

You can check out my thoughts on that lingering trend – including me paying homage to the Fairy Godmother – here.

The other article is for those who seem to have a connection to President Obama that prevents them from accepting any constructive criticism about him even when it’s warranted. Yes, I know some people have been unfair to him, but look around — what’s going on with us collectively is even worse. He has my vote, but not blind support.

You can check out “Breakup With Boyfriend Barack” here.

I have another piece coming, one more personal and tied into some long-term goals. I’ll post when they do. Please pass these works and this site’s link around like bad taste at a Basketball Wives reunion.

Let It Flow

Those of you who follow me on Twitter (no subtly today, y’all) you may have noticed that in recent months I’ve been doing a lot more political writing. I’m pretty sure for some that invites the same level of excitement Evelyn Lozada would have rocking a chastity belt. Be that as it may, for those that are interested I wrote a piece yesterday for The Grio aimed at the ghost of Hillary Clinton’s political past. Folks are salty at Obama and want Hillary to take him out in 2012.

Ashanti’s little sister has a better chance of becoming the next Lady GaGa before such a scenario happens, but dare to dream I guess. After dismissing them, I opined on what that means about President Obama’s political reality. You can check out the piece here.

And just as a throwback, here’s an old post: Help Me, Hillary Clinton.

I actually need to bring that section back on the site. I can’t think of any people off the top of my head, but if you have suggestions feel free to share. That’s all for now. I’ll be working on another piece about Obama for another site tomorrow. I imagine some of your cousins might want to curse me out over it, but they will be alright.

Talking Out The Side of Your Neck

In the latest edition of my series, “Shut Up, Michele Bachmann,” I highlight how she can’t demand people lay off your husband because he’s not the one running for office when she makes a habit out of swinging from Michelle Obama.

And you know, other stuff, too. Click here to check it out.

Try Again, Ma’am

I know the idea that President Obama has had it so much worse than previous presidents because of his race is a popular one, but is it necessarily true? Not until someone says the current president is running a drug and money laundering ring and has fathered a half-black baby. Don’t remember? That’s what I’m here for.

Check out my latest piece for The Grio on race and President Obama here.

Elsewhere

Hey, y’all. I have a few new pieces for you to check out. The first is about the KKK trying to rebrand itself. Another is based on Creflo Dollar’s criticism of fleeing members of Bishop Eddie Long’s church. And then there’s one folks still suffering from Lauryn Hill Denial Disorder (but pay homage) and Howard Cain, who’s just suffering.

I especially like the first two mentioned. Speaking of, tomorrow morning between 8-9 PST I’m scheduled to be on MSNBC to speak about my article on the Klan. And tomorrow the Root podcast I participated in should be up. There I discussed my piece on Creflo Dollar and Eddie Long. Both are a first for me. Smile.

I will update with a link to the podcast once I know it’s up. And of course, updates here are coming soon. Smile one more time?

Edit: So here’s the clip of me:

Oh yeah, I have to follow up about something. I actually make a decent living, my point was that my private student loan payments are so extremely indecent and I wish they’d play a little nicer. How am I supposed to tip strippers and go go boys support the arts? I’m doing better because I’m working harder, but you know, I still plan to do this. Anyone with loan payments know what I mean. Thank you all!

Edit: Here’s the link to The Confab, the weekly podcast from The Root.

Happy Birthday To Me (Sort Of) and Message To You

Should I end up illegally bound to someone and live in sin with for the rest of my life ’til I hire an attorney, I’m pretty sure I’m going to piss that dude off ’cause I forget anniversaries. Case in point, my blog turned 6 the other day and I completely forgot.

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Oh Yeah…

I did write about Don Lemon and black homophobia, though likely not in the way you’d expect. You can read that here.

Also, I’ve been having fun with House Mother of Crunk, Fresh, a lot lately. Fresh and me on NeNe’s Got A Gun and Miguel’s Signs inspired do.

Catch Me

Four years ago today I listened to (Mother) Oprah Winfrey offer me and the rest of the 2007 graduating class of Howard University advice that’s stayed with me. And naturally, saw my credit score rise just from merely being in her presence.

Though, I’m not exactly where I want to be I can take comfort in knowing that for better or worse I am supporting myself by doing what I love. I definitely want to accomplish more between now and the fifth anniversary of graduation, but in the moment, I’m glad I’m getting to put my thoughts out there.

This week I wrote about myths for two different sites. One myth may be deadly for some, the other just kind of annoying to me. In sum: Don’t let “the trade” or Baloo (that’s NeNe Leakes to you) fool y’all.

Now if you would be so kind to check out both, hit a ‘Like,’ share via the Twitter and all that good stuff I’d be most appreciative.

Do masculinity myths put black men at higher risk for HIV?

Yes, There Are Positive Images of Black Women on Reality TV

Oh and do not worry, the day before commencent at the School of Communications graduation, I walked it out on stage and dropped it low at the club. Smile and pop lock.